Have you ever tried to be a positive person and tell yourself something is totally awesome, when you really knew that it wasn't'?
You're more intelligent than that!
Terrible things will happen in life and lying to yourself that it isn't terrible doesn't make it go away or help you move on.
There is a time to learn a lesson and reflect on gratitude from crappy situations such as the death of a loved one, job loss, medical issues, financial difficulties and much more.
Sometimes you just need to sit in the crappy, accept it. When you've moved on from that, then you can find true gratitude in the situation.
I no longer say, "I'm sorry" when someone has a loved one that passes. I heard it often when my dad died and I know everyone meant well, but it simply did not feel right.
I now say, "that's sh***y, losing a loved one really sucks." It's okay to admit that and sit with that, because it it is crappy! You know it and I know it, and we can't lie about it in attempts to move on.